Map your personal window — what expands it, what collapses it, and where you currently sit.
The window of tolerance describes the zone of arousal in which you can function effectively — engaged without being overwhelmed, present without being shut down. Dan Siegel's original model describes it as the range between hyperarousal (too activated — fight, flight, anxiety, reactivity) and hypoarousal (too deactivated — collapse, numbness, dissociation).
Within that window: you can think, feel, connect, and respond. Outside it: you react from survival. The width of your window varies — by day, by context, by accumulated stress, by training.
This mapping exercise takes 7 minutes. You'll identify your current window size, your specific triggers, and the resources that reliably expand it. Output is a personalised window map you can reference and build from.
Think about the last two weeks — not your best days, not your worst. Your general operating baseline.
Hyperarousal is the over-activated zone — anxiety, reactivity, agitation, hypervigilance, racing thoughts, urgency that doesn't match the situation. Add the specific triggers that consistently push you there.
Add triggers one at a time. Be specific — "my manager's tone when critical" is more useful than "stress."
Hypoarousal is the under-activated zone — numbness, flatness, withdrawal, disconnection, inability to feel or respond. It's the nervous system choosing collapse over engagement. Add the triggers or conditions that pull you there.
Common examples: prolonged conflict, feeling unseen, physical exhaustion, sensory overload.
Resources are the people, practices, environments, and sensory inputs that reliably move you back toward your window — or expand its boundaries over time. Add what you know works for you.
Physical, relational, and environmental resources all count. Include what works even if you don't always access it.
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Module 02 — Nervous System Architecture
The window of tolerance is one lens inside a larger architecture. Module 02 gives you the full map — how the nervous system constructed your range, and what makes it readable.
Preview Module 02 →$19 one-time
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